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The Best Skill That Would Have the Greatest Life Impact

What’s the best skill that would have the greatest impact on your life?

I asked hundreds of people what would be the best skill that would have the greatest impact on their life. For many people it was specialized skills that had to do with their career and professional advancement, or an educational subject matter, for others it had to do with a hobby. Many people also mentioned social skills like communication skills, public speaking, and the skill of listening.

When it came to what is the best skill that would have the greatest impact on our lives, there were two main skills that came to my attention.

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How to Find Your People with These Simple Steps

We humans are meant to belong. We have an innate need for human connection, belonging, and community. It’s in our nature. And it’s almost just as important as survival. In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, belongingness and love is listed right after the basic survival needs.

If we don’t feel like we belong, we risk loneliness, depression, anxiety, a short lifespan, and poor physical health. Belonging and finding our people is critical to living a healthy, successful, happy, fulfilling life.

Here are some steps to take to find your people, your tribe to genuinely connect with others and belong.

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A Different Approach to Personal Development

In the West, we are a very individualistic society. Especially within personal development, we’re all about independence, achievement, personal happiness, etc.

As human beings we are meant for more than just taking care of ourselves. That is only the basic level. There is limited growth if it’s just all about us and what we can do for ourselves and what we want and need in our lives.

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75 Quotes on Kindness and Generosity

Generosity and kindness are powerful tools we should implement into our personal growth. There are numerous benefits to it and a tremendous amount of different ways to practice generosity and kindness to become better greater people. Here’s a list of generosity and kindness quotes to inspire you to grow to be more kind, giving, and generous. Love more. Give more. Share more. Live more. Spread kindness, peace, and joy.

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105 Ideas for Random Acts of Kindness

Looking for ways and ideas to practice kindness and generosity? When it comes to being kind, and acts of kindness there’s so many possibilities, opportunities, and ideas you can try! This list of 105 ideas for random acts of kindness is a great place to start.

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25 Ways to Become a Better Person

How can we become a better person?

When it comes to being a better person and becoming a great person, we are often more achievement focused. Being a great person is not about what we have though, it’s about what we give.

Few of us actively make kindness a part of our personal growth. What you give lasts. Not necessarily materially because giving doesn’t always mean just physically giving. You can also give time, energy, love What you give lasts in people’s hearts and minds and in our own as well. To become a better person, we must implement kindness and generosity and giving into our daily lives.Kindness is something that seems to be so basic, yet few of us actually take the time to think about it and act on it. We go about the day so engrossed in our own problems.

There is so much power in kindness and generosity. And it is so necessary. Here are 25 ways you can become a better person and how you can be more kind, practice it, and make it part of your lifestyle.

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20 Benefits of Contribution, Kindness, and Generosity

What are the benefits of contribution, kindness, and generosity?

When it comes to our lives, success, and happiness, we’re mostly focused on our day-to-day busy lives, getting to where we need to be and getting things done. Most of us don’t make the time or put in the effort for contribution. Many of us are only kind when it’s convenient for us or when we’re asked. That’s not to say that we’re not kind per se, but that we do the bare minimum or we’re indifferent or reactive to how others treat us.

The benefits of contribution, generosity, and kindness are enormous not only to those we give to, but ourselves and society as a whole. Following are 20 benefits of contribution, kindness, giving, altruism, volunteering, and generosity as to why we should give, volunteer, and contribute more often as well as develop the skills of kindness and generosity and make them habits.

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The Foundation of Personal Growth

The foundation of personal growth. What is it?

This was THE main question. It still is. I ran a survey/interview with a series of questions. The foundation of personal growth is what the survey meant to get at with different questions.

I was curious about what the foundation to personal development and growth was as well as what people thought it was.

Because there’s really no one agreed upon rule. Everyone in personal growth will tell you that you need to focus on this or that to be successful or happy. You hear so many different things.

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  • Anyone can become great, but not many will.
  • There are people who say that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and then there are people that state that that’s not true - you can experience traumatization, ptsd, etc. ⠀ The truth is that it depends. ⠀ It’s entirely based on how the person takes it. ⠀ A set of studies looked at people that suffered serious adversity and survived. They found three different types of people - those that were permanently dispirited, those who went back to normal, and those who used experience to make them stronger. ⠀ What this tells us is that you can make what happens to you to happen for you if you let it. You can make what doesn’t kill you make you stronger, but you can also have it do nothing for you or you can let it make you weaker. It not just about the cards you were dealt with, it’s about what you do with them. ⠀ What doesn’t kill doesn’t just automatically make you stronger just because you survived. But it can. Whether it does or it doesn’t lies on you.
  • Just keep going. Keep moving forward. Keep climbing. Never stop. You will get to where you believe you’ll be. 🧗🏻‍♀️
  • If you could choose to have one superpower, what would it be? ⠀ It’s an easy answer for me. A learning superpower. I’m not too sure what the specifics would be, but you could get crazy with it. ⠀ Think about it: If you could learn anything, you could do pretty much anything most people desire to do. ⠀ You could learn how to make money, you could learn how to be popular, make friends and find love. ⠀ You could learn to develop discipline and take action to achieve anything you want. ⠀ You could learn about the body and health to become super strong, healthy and fit. ⠀ You could learn how to build machines and technology that would make you be able to do pretty much anything a super hero could do. ⠀ You could learn the solution to a major world problem. ⠀ Instead of saving people from one big bad villain, you’d be saving people from problems that affect millions like cancer and poverty. ⠀ The crazy thing is that this power is available to us. Sure it’s not a super power in which we’re able to just scan a whole bookshelf and absorb all the information or be able to learn a superhuman speed. But we do have the power to learn nearly anything. Many of us just never use it because we’re too busy working hard. Or we think that the people that accomplish these great feats are just super geniuses. The only difference is that they are constant learners. They know the power and value of learning and education. ⠀ Learning is so underrated. All this talk of hustle and grind and working hard is prevalent all over social media. This is a bit silly to me when we could be working smarter instead of harder. This is the value of learning and education. ⠀ It allows us to accomplish things faster and better and not only that, it allows us to grow and advance rather than continue to stagnate with outdated and limited knowledge. Knowledge is becoming more valuable than money. Education and learning are what can make us become great and attain power in our lives.
  • No matter what, there is always a reason 😊
  • (Part 2) When you can't smile on the outside, you really feel it on the inside. Because I couldn't show happiness, I didn't feel happy. I didn't feel like myself. It's a horrible feeling to not be able to smile, laugh or positively respond to someone. Nobody ever thinks of smiling as a privilege. I just wanted my face back. I just wanted to be able to smile again. ⠀ Thankfully, slowly & gradually my face started to recover, little by little, day by day. It took about a month to be fully recovered. I was so happy & grateful that I got my face & smile back. ⠀ My face is still not the same since recovering from Bell’s Palsy. Although I t’s very minor & barely noticeable & it’s possible that I was like this before & never noticed until after, my lips are a little crooked & one of my eyes shuts tighter than the other. ⠀ But what matters is that I have my smile. I can smile freely & express my joy outwardly to myself or to others around me. ⠀ Losing my smile was a powerful lesson that taught me the power of smiling. ⠀ Physically, it happened out of nowhere & the cause of it is up for speculation but I strongly believe that it was because I was in a very dark place in my life. I was extremely depressed over a recent breakup. I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t smiling inside so my body followed. ⠀ Now I'm happy & find plenty of reasons to smile every single day. Now I feel free. Now I never take my smile for granted. ⠀ Enjoy the simple & little things in life. Always enjoy & be grateful for what you have right now because you never know if the next day you wake up & it's gone. I was blessed because it was only temporary for me. For some people, it lasts months... years & some don't even fully recover. Remember, there is ALWAYS a reason a reason to be happy. There is ALWAYS a reason to smile. No matter what’s going on or what life throws at you. Get back up every time with a smile on your face. Go out & find those reasons. I did & still am. Smiling is so powerful & it’s free. You don’t have to wait for someone to smile at you to smile at them. You don’t have to wait until something happens or you do something to be happy. It is always available to you no matter what. :)